I believe that people are inherently good. We want to be helpful and make others feel good. When people are in crisis, we often scramble for ways to make them feel better and to avoid sitting in the pain with them. Being with someone in their distress is hard. People say some of the strangest […]


July 18, 2022

10 Of The Most Unhelpful Things You Can Say When Someone Is In Pain

The internet keeps telling me there’s something else I need to fix, learn, or improve. I open my phone and reflexively click on Instagram. I scroll. Something in my brain tells me to exit out and move to Tiktok. More scrolling. Video of parenting advice. Ok I can get behind that but wow I am […]


April 25, 2022

You’re Good Enough

Saying “don’t cry” when someone is crying is just something we do. People say “don’t cry” for a couple of reasons. It’s ingrained is us that crying is bad and we want it to stop. Seeing others in distress also leads to our own personal distress. We want to make it better for them and […]


March 28, 2022

Tempted To Say “Don’t Cry,” Say This Instead

Good relationships end all the time. I used to believe that you could only end a relationship if something really bad happened. There had to be a reason why and it needed to be good enough to warrant ending it all. The fact that I wasn’t really that into it anymore or that I had […]


March 8, 2022

Why Good Relationships End

“I’m Triggered” Is A Popular Phrase, But What Does It Actually Mean? Triggered has become a very popular adjective over the years and the meaning has gotten super watered down… So, I like to use emotional flooding as a solid definition for getting “triggered.” According to Dr. John Gottman, emotional flooding is our nervous system […]


March 2, 2022

Triggered: What To Say And Do When You’re Emotional

instagram therapist whitney goodman, lmft creator of toxic positivity

This Was A Surprisingly Difficult Challenge I have noticed that my phone has become a huge distraction. I can’t walk two feet without refreshing Instagram and I found myself constantly reaching for my phone in bed. I was living out this tweet in real time. And when you use social media and your phone for […]

Mental Health Challenge

March 1, 2022

I’m A Therapist And I Didn’t Use My Phone In Bed For 7 Days

whitney goodman, lmft didn't bring her phone to bed for 7 days here is what happened

Toxic Positivity Found Me On Instagram In 2018, I joined Instagram to promote my private practice. I had a lot of time and very little money, so…I thought it would be a great free way to promote my practice. I had no idea what I was getting into or that joining this platform would come […]

Toxic Positivity

February 17, 2022

Why I Popularized The Phrase “Toxic Positivity”

whitney goodman is the author of toxic positivity and creator of the term toxic positivity

Forgiveness is the conscious and deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment, anger, vengeance, etc. toward a person or group who has hurt or wronged you. Often we’re told that we should “forgive and forget,” like that’s somehow the key to moving on and living a better life. But what if you can’t forget? What […]


February 15, 2022

Should You Really Forgive And Forget?

toxic positivity by whitney goodman

I heard that every time you blink there’s a new mental health app that promises to cure just about everything (I made that up, but it feels true). So, I am on a quest to try a lot of them and let you know what I think. I am not being paid or sponsored for […]

Mental Health Apps

February 14, 2022

I’m A Therapist And I Tried The Calm App For 7 Days

therapist tried the calm app for 7 days