The internet keeps telling me there’s something else I need to fix, learn, or improve.
I open my phone and reflexively click on Instagram. I scroll. Something in my brain tells me to exit out and move to Tiktok. More scrolling.
Video of parenting advice. Ok I can get behind that but wow I am exhausted. Now a makeup tutorial. I could never do that. People dancing, then a cooking tutorial on how to cut onions correctly. I’m not doing that right either, huh. I guess my brain tells me to move on because now I’m on Twitter and I have no idea how I got here. I’m reminded of how terrifying therapist Twitter is. Everyone is fighting about nothing and I gotta get out of here.
Now I’m on LinkedIn which equally terrifies me and is definitely my last resort when I’m on a scrolling binge. Here’s an article about how to make more money and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. Where do I go next? Ah yes, Facebook. I gotta get out of here.
This is something I do often. I hop on these apps hoping for some relief, maybe a break from the world, and instead I’m inundated with shit to change about myself. I need whiter bedding. I need new workout clothes. I need to learn how to cook better. I need to just be better in every area of my life. And the crazy thing is, I’m contributing to this culture. I have been posting every single day for the last 4 years about how to improve your relationships and your mental health.
I quit (sort of).
I am committing myself to a good enough life. I am going to be great in the areas that require greatness and I am going to enjoy mediocrity when I just don’t have to be great.
I’m not going to order every new thing on the market. I’m not going to try the latest makeup trend if I really don’t give a shit about it. I’m not going to improve parts of my face or my body I didn’t even think were a problem before someone told me they were. I’m not going to stop liking high-waisted jeans because some girl on the internet told me they were out.
I am going to try to be a better wife and a mother. I’m also going to accept when I’m already doing enough. I’m going to workout and eat foods that I enjoy and that give me energy. I’m also going to rest when I’m tired. I’m going to work really hard at my job because I love it and I want to be good at it. I’m also going to recognize when I need a vacation.
I’m committing myself to greatness in the areas where it matters and the rest will just have to be good enough.
This is Good Enough, a newsletter and community about messing up, trying harder, learning, and just being good enough. This is a community where we know perfection isn’t possible and we admit when growth is needed. A balance of *be your best self* and chill out. The perfect pairing of self-improvement and self-acceptance.
Each month, I will be introducing you to a character who is in therapy because they want more. They want to be better.
I’ll be taking you along through their therapy journey and giving you an inside look at what a therapist thinks about this issue and what I would do. We’ll be looking at issues like body image, breakups, sleep, health, career, and more. You can think of this like a podcast + self-help book + fiction novel combo.
Whitney Goodman, LMFT is a therapist, author, and mother on a quest to make mental health information accessible and easy to understand.
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