You’re Good Enough

The internet keeps telling me there’s something else I need to fix, learn, or improve.

I open my phone and reflexively click on Instagram. I scroll. Something in my brain tells me to exit out and move to Tiktok. More scrolling.

Video of parenting advice. Ok I can get behind that but wow I am exhausted. Now a makeup tutorial. I could never do that. People dancing, then a cooking tutorial on how to cut onions correctly. I’m not doing that right either, huh. I guess my brain tells me to move on because now I’m on Twitter and I have no idea how I got here. I’m reminded of how terrifying therapist Twitter is. Everyone is fighting about nothing and I gotta get out of here.

Now I’m on LinkedIn which equally terrifies me and is definitely my last resort when I’m on a scrolling binge. Here’s an article about how to make more money and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE. Where do I go next? Ah yes, Facebook. I gotta get out of here.

This is something I do often. I hop on these apps hoping for some relief, maybe a break from the world, and instead I’m inundated with shit to change about myself. I need whiter bedding. I need new workout clothes. I need to learn how to cook better. I need to just be better in every area of my life. And the crazy thing is, I’m contributing to this culture. I have been posting every single day for the last 4 years about how to improve your relationships and your mental health.

I quit (sort of).

I am committing myself to a good enough life. I am going to be great in the areas that require greatness and I am going to enjoy mediocrity when I just don’t have to be great.

I’m not going to order every new thing on the market. I’m not going to try the latest makeup trend if I really don’t give a shit about it. I’m not going to improve parts of my face or my body I didn’t even think were a problem before someone told me they were. I’m not going to stop liking high-waisted jeans because some girl on the internet told me they were out.

I am going to try to be a better wife and a mother. I’m also going to accept when I’m already doing enough. I’m going to workout and eat foods that I enjoy and that give me energy. I’m also going to rest when I’m tired. I’m going to work really hard at my job because I love it and I want to be good at it. I’m also going to recognize when I need a vacation.

I’m committing myself to greatness in the areas where it matters and the rest will just have to be good enough.

Do you want to join me?

This is Good Enough, a newsletter and community about messing up, trying harder, learning, and just being good enough. This is a community where we know perfection isn’t possible and we admit when growth is needed. A balance of *be your best self* and chill out. The perfect pairing of self-improvement and self-acceptance.

Each month, I will be introducing you to a character who is in therapy because they want more. They want to be better.

• Jenna Wants A Better Body
• Sam Wants A Better Relationship
• Isabelle Wants Better Sleep
• Jim Wants Better Health
• Irene Wants A Better Career
• Pedro Wants More Money
• Chelsea Wants Better Skin
• Luis Wants To Save The World
• Carly Wants More Friends
• Rachel Wants A Better Relationship With God
• Lisa Wants To Be A Better Parent

I’ll be taking you along through their therapy journey and giving you an inside look at what a therapist thinks about this issue and what I would do. We’ll be looking at issues like body image, breakups, sleep, health, career, and more. You can think of this like a podcast + self-help book + fiction novel combo.

Each month you’ll get:

• weekly email filling you in on a character’s therapy journey and what they’re dealing with (audio and written – pick your poison)
• worksheets with actual strategies you can use today
• curated list of my favorite experts for each topic + book recommendations
• source list of all academic sources and research
• glossary of therapy terms and weird scientific language
• weekly discussion questions
• monthly webinar + Q&A

A few promises I’m making to you:

• I will never sell you anything in this series. No ads.
• I will not use weird psychobabble, self-help lingo.
• Everything will have a purpose and I will show you why I’m using that tool or that intervention and why it matters.
• I am not collecting your data and never will.
• I will only send you 1 email per week.
• I will donate 10% of my monthly income to a non-profit organization that provides food, shelter, and other resources to people in need.

Sign up here. First email will arrive in your inbox on Apr 29, 2022.